Brrr. It's cold! And, I lost heat.

by Senior Care Society on 01/28/2014 - 10:36 am

Tag: Energizing Tips in Bloom

Less than a week after my return from San Diego, the winter blues almost claimed me. I was struck with a bad streak of home ownership karma that accompanied a blizzard that left 15 inches of snow on the ground.

 

Three home issues suddenly arose that were not directly related to the storm. First, I had a significant water leak into my kitchen from an upstairs bathroom.  The next day, my refrigerator started to croak, and at about midnight that night my furnace stopped working. It got down to about zero degrees outside so it quickly got cold in my house.  I ended up putting on several layers of clothing and waited for a call back from the heating service company I use.

 

As the initial few hours went by waiting for furnace repair service to arrive, I found myself getting exhausted, fearful and frustrated.  I had not felt emotions close to those since some of the most stressful days caring for my parents.  Back then, I would keep those emotions inside. I did not share my feelings out of concern for others, who I believed counted on me like Superman.

 

In my early days of caregiving, I also did not readily seek support so I stayed on Caregiving Isolation Island. This left me feeling filled with despair and worry on most days.  Once I pursued coach training and became conscious of my level of energy, I was able to cope with all of the caregiving challenges that came my way with greater confidence and determination.      

 

When you are up all night without heat on a frigid winter night, it gives you a lot of time to reflect and become conscious of your needs.  So, I released my feelings and said (or screamed) and wrote whatever I needed to.  I shared my situation with a few close friends and family later that next morning while waiting for furnace repair.  I chose not to knock myself for having negative thoughts or feelings.  Instead, I let them out and then did a conscious re-frame through my conversations with others. 

 

This is what that re-frame led me to...

 

Bad things come in threes.  I got my three items so it is time to move on.  It is going to get better.  All repairs will soon get completed.  I am leading the  esources which will get me the results I want.  I am truly blessed and lucky that I have the resources and skill to get the services I need.  I feel so much more  ompassion and empathy for people around the world who have lost homes due to extreme weather conditions.  My current issues are manageable so I will be just fine.

 

Everything did indeed work out just fine for me.  Heat was restored by 6pm the next evening and I ended up having a wonderful weekend that concluded with another phenomenal CaregivingPower Hour on Sunday night.  Life is good!

 

Why did I share this story with you?  My hope is that you will seek support whenever you understandably feel anger, fear, frustration, disappointment, sadness, etc.  Caregivers deal with some of the most stressful of all life situations - many times truly a matter of life and death. You do not need to be a lonely superman or superwoman. Seek desired support from others to get the job done.

 

Practice Tip: Don't get angry with yourself for having  uncomfortable feelings or try to suppress them.  You are likely dealing with some of the most stressful of life situations.  

 

It is important to pass through those uncomfortable storms of emotions when crisis hits by acknowledging and validating yourself for having them.  Then, seek
a trusted coach, confidant, friend, or partner to share and process your thoughts.  This will help you determine a pathway that will get you the support you need to sustain your attitude and caregiving energy.  Taking a little time to focus and care for yourself in this way will be of great benefit to those you support. 

 

Go forward with energy and care, fellow caregiver.

 

Michael

 

 

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